How many successful people have left men and women
On November 11th, on the day commonly known as “Single Singles’ Day”, the department manager of a foreign company, Xiao Ding, planned early to go hiking with “stick friends” to avoid his mother.”Public opinion pressure.
As a successful white-collar lady, she is still in her thirties, a typical “Great Northern Wilderness”-in Beijing, old age, and so far “abandoned”.
Xiao Ding doesn’t want to get married, but she is too busy with work. She often travels around the country and abroad, coupled with high positions and high incomes. In this way, it is not easy for her to find a good luck man.
In the author’s impression, only those with bad conditions can’t find the target and become “leftover men and leftover women”.
Some kind of “Prince of the White Horse” or “Princess Snow” that is good in all aspects like Xiao Ding should have been “male as a married woman and female as a married woman”, and took their own fragrance on the road to love.
But it is these modern workplace leaders who have worked hard all the way and searched all the way, and they have been stunned and turned into the remaining few, and they have become “leftover men” and “leftover women”.Name.
According to reports, in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and other places where there is a lot of talents, the situation of singles is more common. The proportion of older unmarried people in the IT industry is higher than in other industries, and the ranks of “women” are also growing.
The reason why “leftover men and leftover women” are “favored” for successful people is not that they do not want to “find a loved one who loves their dear and loves to bid farewell to being single.” There are three main reasons for this: First, the pressure on work and the face of education, Medical, housing “new three big mountains” are exhausted, in the pursuit of career missed the best age to choose a spouse; the second is the narrow range of friends, leading to opportunities for social communication, especially with peers, colleagues also avoid taboosAsking about personal privacy issues such as marriage and family, even if you are affectionate, it is “difficult to love you”; third, the standard of courtship is too high, the appearance of each other must be pleasing to the eye, the temperament must be extraordinary, the personality must be easy-going, the quality must be both, and the economic income alsoTo match the already, I asked for “Audi” and then wanted to find “Mercedes”, and after “Mercedes” wanted to find “BMW”, he narrowed his choices artificially.
Anyone who is “leftover and leftover” in their single life is still worried, but the social pressures and psychological problems caused by their transformation, such as worry, depression, inferiority, closeness, fussiness, rebellion, etc., cannot be ignored.
When “Is there an object”, “Are you married”, “How old is the child” and so on become routine “urging” of parents or “inquiry” between relatives and colleagues, I believe that too many “leftovers and leftovers” will be embarrassingEndlessly.
Although some people seem to laugh at it and pretend they don’t care, in fact, they will have more or less “ripples” in their hearts.
When some people are anxious internally, they will have a sense of inferiority, or the emotion of avoidance, and feel that they are standing in the society and have no sense of belonging. It will seriously cause conflicts with their parents and cause a lack of family relationships.
From this point of view, besides “leftover men and leftover women” is a new term that has become a social phenomenon.
As a theme group, the first is that each individual needs to lose their psychological burdens and stop looking at the men and women around them with an idealistic perspective. They should be less picky, more tolerant, and naturally find their destination. Second, they need people around them.Care a lot and treat them differently according to different personalities. Third, family members and relatives and friends need to understand. It is not appropriate to “force” them too tightly and artificially increase their pressure.
After all, they are just “leftover men and leftover girls”, not “holy men and maidens”. When talking about marriage, they still abide by the rules in Hongchen and let it go.